If only we could have a crystal ball to tell us which men will end up breaking our hearts or stop calling us just when we think we’re falling in love. Well, there is because this post will give you a list of the types of men to avoid like the plague while dating.
Here are the 7 types of men to avoid like the plague.
1. Men Who Cheat.
My belief has always been “Once a cheater, always a cheater”. Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule, but from personal experience and observation, it’s true. Men who cheat will usually do it until they are caught. If the woman forgives them, then they will cheat again. This time, they will be more creative in not getting caught. I worked with a man who had a long term girlfriend and when I asked had he ever cheated before. He stated yes and then said that if she caught him again, she would leave him. Did that deter him from cheating again? Nope, he was sleeping with another woman he worked with at that time.
Men (and women) cheat for a variety of reasons. However, those who tend to cheat are habitual offenders and are prone to keep doing it over and over. Maybe they saw their dad cheat on their mom and she didn’t leave them.
Maybe they aren’t fulfilled in their relationships. Doesn’t really matter. You deserve to be with a man who loves you and wants to be only with you. For every cheating scumbag out there, there are hundreds of faithful men ready to love you.
2. Men Who Lie
A man who lies to you about small things will lie to you about big things. When I started dating a man, he lied about his car being in the shop. Came to find out, he didn’t even have a car or a license for that matter. Why didn’t he have a license? He kept getting pulled over for driving without one – oh and of course there was the back child support issue. After uncovering one lie, there were several other ones lying underneath it.
Once you tell one lie, you have to keep on telling lies to cover that one up. If your man lies to you about small things, he’s lying about big things as well. You deserve to be with someone who not only tells the truth but doesn’t have so much baggage that they feel it necessary to lie about them. You don’t want to get yourself in a situation where his lies will spill over into your life.
3. Men Who’ve Been to Prison (and especially those who can’t seem to stay out).
Now I’m not saying that every man who has ever been locked up is a bad person, but dating a felon puts a damper on your life. Never mind what criminal act got him locked up in the first place if you’re able to accept it then, by all means, go right ahead. I’m sure there’s a difference between someone who held up a liquor store and someone who stole a DVD from Walmart. There are moral issues to be considered. Did this person steal because he was homeless and starving? Or is he someone who never had anything positive to contribute to society and will ultimately end back in prison anyway.
Just remember that it’s difficult (though not impossible) for felons to find good jobs. They’re often snubbed when they come out of prison after paying their debt to society. They often can’t qualify for programs such as financial aid, which will make it difficult for them to get the education they will need to find a decent paying job. This leaves a lot of the burden on you. Also, if they’re someone who can’t leave a life of crime alone, then they are putting your life and safety at risk.
4. Men Who Are Unemployed
I understand that recently our economy sucked big time, so finding and keeping a job became very difficult for some of us. However, the tides are changing and unemployment is a lot lower than it was a couple of years ago. So if your man didn’t have a job last year, then that’s okay. If your man still doesn’t have a job – well that’s a problem.
There are a lot of men out there who not only have a hard time to finding work because of lack of education and job history, but also because of felony convictions that keep them from becoming employed. There are also quite a few men who just don’t like to work.
They’re lazy, unmotivated momma boys who are looking to you for a come-up or a handout. Either way, you don’t need to date them.
I believe in the courting process and I believe that men should pay for dates, especially in the beginning. If he doesn’t have a job or worse not looking for one, then you better believe you’re going to foot the bill A LOT. And to think, if he doesn’t like to work now, what are you going to do with him if you (heaven forbid) decide to marry him down the road.
5. Men Who Have Multiple Children With Multiple Women
I could leave it just like this, but many of you might ask me why I tell you not to date these type of men. I understand that most of us are over the age of 30 and we all come with baggage. We probably have children, a divorce under our belt and a slew of bad mistakes right behind us. That’s fine, but there’s a difference between a man with five children from his previous marriage than a man with five children by five different women.
Multiple “baby mommas” tell me a lot about a man. One, he loves to have unprotected sex – A LOT. Two, he felt the desire to have children by these women but didn’t care enough to marry them. Now if you date him, fall in love with him and happen to get pregnant by him, you’re going to baby momma number six. You will also be alone because it’s evident he doesn’t like to stick around.
Now you can believe he’s changed, you can believe that you’re better than all of his exes and that it will be different with him. I’m sure that’s what Ciara thought when she got with Future, but we see how that turned out.
6. Men Who Are Always Broke
You might think that this is the same as #4, but it’s not. You can have a job and still be broke as a joke. Not having any money is a red flag and it shows that the man you’re dating either doesn’t make enough money or he has a problem managing money. There’s also the issue that your beau may be buried deep in debt.
Most of us who went to college probably have a few loans out there under our belt. That’s fine, but if he has a fancy car note, designer suits, the latest iPhone and still can’t pay his rent – he won’t have any money to spend on you.
I once dated a guy who seemed to work ALL OF THE TIME, but couldn’t keep any money in his pocket. He would often reschedule our dates because he didn’t have any money to take me out. What’s worse, he started asking me for a hundred here and two-hundred there. It became ridiculous and I started to question why I was dating him in the first place.
7. Men Who Are Mama Boys
When my 21-year old son told me he wasn’t ever going to leave me, I knew he was no good for anyone. Besides not knowing how to cook, or evidently how to clean up after him. I knew that some poor girl would have to pick up from where I left off. Which means, sooner rather than later, he would be right back home with his momma.
No one wants to have to take care of a grown man.
I know I said 7 types of men, but here are three bonuses for the type of men you should avoid.
8. Men Who Are Not Self-Sufficient
A man who can cook and clean is sexy to me. This shows me that they can take care of a house and home and not solely depend on me to cook for them and clean up after them. There are some men out there who not only can’t fix a cup of noodles, there are some that can’t pay their own bills or handle adult business. I used to date this one guy who wanted me to be his personal secretary and handle all of his personal affairs. I started to feel more like his momma than his girlfriend.
9. Men Who Abuse Drugs or Alcohol
Addiction is a powerful thing. It is so addicting that nothing matters more to a man with an addiction but getting that fix. I’ve seen marriages, families, and lives destroyed by addiction. It takes over a person’s mind, body, and soul and wreaks havoc on everyone that comes in contact with them. No amount of love will help these men unless they are ready to be helped. Save yourself a lot of time, money and heartache and stay clear.
10. Men Who Are Abusive
Men who put down, threaten or harm someone physically, mentally or psychologically are the scum of the earth and have no place in your heart or life.
I’m not going to debate this with you and I’m not going to listen to you justify his actions. Someone who hurts you in any manner does not love you.
Have you ever dated any of these types of men before? If so, comment below and tell us your story.