One question I get a lot by women is how to tell if a man is interested in them.
It’s baffling to me because it’s not that difficult to figure out. Men are not complex creatures. They don’t act coy or play hard to get when they’re attracted to and interested in a woman.
Men are blatantly obvious.
A man who is interested in dating a woman is not going to act shy and get his buddies to ask her out. Really no guy out of middle school should ever do it and being shy is not a manly (or adult) characteristic you want in a potential partner.
If you’re in a situation where you don’t know if a man you like is interested in you, here are five signs that will tell you that he is.
5 Signs He’s Interested in You
He Initiates Contact
A man who is interested in a woman will do anything in his power to get in touch with her. He will drive five miles out the way of his morning commute for a chance meeting with her at the local Starbucks.
He will take his lunch break when she does at work, just so he can get the chance to talk to her.
An interested man will ask for a woman’s number. He will call. He will ask her out. He will pursue her.
If a man doesn’t do any of those things, you better believe that he’s either not interested or already in a relationship.
His Body Language Says He Likes You
A man’s body language can tell a lot on he feels about a woman. A man who is interested in a woman will move his body to mimic hers. He’s trying to make an effort to connect with this woman.
Another way a man will show he’s interested is that he will lean into the woman he is speaking to. It’s as if he wants to ensure he is taking in everything she has to say. He will bring his body in closer, which should give some indication of the level of interest he has in that woman.
If you can put a whole ‘nother person in between the two of you, it’s a good chance he’s not interested and only sees you as a friend.
Men (and women) will tend to point their knees and toes towards the person they are attracted to. If a man is sitting with his knees pointed in the opposite direction, it’s a good chance he’s not attracted to the woman he is speaking to.
He Calls Often
In this day and age, people prefer texting over talking on the phone. While this may be okay when you’re in a quiet place or just need to send a quick message, texting is not a great way to keep a relationship going strong.
I dated a man who liked to text A LOT. It didn’t bother me much, especially while I was at work, but when I didn’t hear from him at night on days on end, I became a little upset by it.
A man who is truly interested in you will want to call you if nothing more than to hear your voice. If a guy doesn’t call you and text you a lot, most likely only sees you as a fling and is not trying to build anything with you.
Another likely reason for the texting is that he has a girlfriend or a wife, which makes talking to you quite difficult. If this is the case, just move on to the next one.
He Makes Time to Be With You
A man who is trying to get to know you better will try to spend as much time he can with you. Every free chance he gets will be spent with you.
The amount of time a man spends with a woman can vary from person to person. However, you shouldn’t go weeks and months on end from seeing a man you are dating.
Look, people are busy. But now one is that busy. Even the President of the United States gets some free time to himself, so your man could definitely find time for you.
People will make the time to do what they want or to spend it with who they want.
He Tries to Get to Know You
Have you ever spent time with someone and after a few months you realized that you know nothing about them? Well, this should be different than when you are with someone you are dating.
To tell if a man is interested in you, you should look at the type of questions he asks of you. If he’s asking you about your favorite subject in high school or what your childhood looked like, then you can be confident that he’s pretty interested in getting to know more about you.
Dating someone who only asks superficial questions can mean one or two things, either they’re not interested in you and don’t see a relationship with you long term, or they’re really only concerned about themselves.