If “Is he using me” is a question nagging at the back of your mind, then it’s not clear if your man’s intentions are true. No matter if you think he’s using you for sex, money or a place to lay his head, just the thought popping into your head just says that he probably is.
Smart women fall in love with their heart and sensibilities in tact. Foolish women fail to use the good sense that was given to them and fall for men when they fell all fuzzy inside. This is fine for romance novels, but this is real life. You can have love – real love, with someone who is giving as good as they are getting. If you think that a man is with you only for what you can give him, then you have to walk away.
He Moves Too Fast
So let’s say, a man you’ve been dating for three months seems to be head over heels in love with you. You know this, because he makes it his point to tell you every chance he gets. You thought it was too fast, but hey it feels good so why care? This man who is “so in love with you” even though he’s only known you for a couple of weeks.
If this is the case, RUN. This man doesn’t love you and has an ulterior motive. Genuine love doesn’t appear overnight and you know it. He’s trying to get you to think he’s in love with you so he can get you to do what he wants. One man I dated told me loved me after two weeks. I felt so weird about it. Then I started thinking that maybe I was acting like a prude. I mean, I am great. Right? Well, of course
He Makes Time For You When It’s Convenient for Him
So what does this all mean? It means he only wants to make time for you if it’s time spent between the sheets. I always say that no one is EVER that busy. So let’s be real. You fulfill a need for him. Nothing more. He most likely has a girlfriend (or worse a wife). Truth is, he enjoys having sex with you. Don’t get it confused and think he wants more, because he doesn’t.
You deserve to be with someone who enjoys spending time getting to know you. If he doesn’t want to be bothered with you any time other than during booty call hours, he’s just using you. But of course, you already know this. You just need someone like me with a smart mouth to tell you.
Okay, your man spends a lot of time with you. He love spending time with you and he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, as he claims. After telling you how wonderful you are and how no other woman makes him feel like you do, he tells you about the cut-off notice he received from the electric company. Or maybe he tells you that his truck broke down and he’s now short for this month’s rent? He tells you not just because you’re a good listener, he’s looking for a loan.
You’re His ATM
He sees you as his limitless ATM machine. You start to feel sorry for him and you ask how you can make his problems go away. He acts like he’s hesitant and that he doesn’t want to worry you about it, but everything will be okay if he could hold a couple hundred until payday. You go grab your
He sees you as his limitless ATM machine. You start to feel sorry for him and you ask how you can make his problems go away. He acts like he’s hesitant and that he doesn’t want to worry you about it, but everything will be okay if he could hold a couple hundred until payday. You go grab your purse, because no man of yours should have to suffer this way.
Put away your credit card and put away your wallet. Don’t fall for his sad story. No man will tell his woman about his money issues if he didn’t want to bother her with them. A good man will find another way to handle his money problem without involving his woman. No decent man will take money from a woman he’s dating, unless he’s looking to her to support her lifestyle.
Just think about it. Did your man’s “money problems” suddenly appear when he heard about your big promotion? Did your boyfriend’s eviction notice suddenly appear after he saw how nice your place was? Or did he start coming around acting more present and loving right around tax time?
If so, you know he’s only there for the money. He may tell you it is only a loan, but if you part with your money, you will never see it again. Unless this man is your fiancee’ (maybe) or your husband, do not loan him any money. Do not pay for his bills, when you have bills of your own. Do not bail him out of jail and risk your assets for his stupidity.
Do you know how many women I have seen who have jacked up their credit by financially supporting some bum masquerading as the love of her life? It happens all the time, because again, foolish women don’t use their heads in a relationship. After everything is over and done with, he’s gone and you’re left with an empty bank account. Just don’t do it.
Don’t let a few loving words get you all hot and bothered and falling for whatever this man has to say. Some men are good manipulators and they know that if they tell you what you want to hear, you’ll give them what they want in return. So, before you give in, use your head. Ask yourself what this man’s intentions are. If you sense it’s not good for you, keep it moving.
You deserve better.